What happened to my little girl?

It's as if you can hear the sound of your heart breaking with the bang of the slamming door. And what about the nauseating taste of defeat that remains after a simple conversation turns into something that challenges the strength of your vocal cords.  You feel exhausted and hopeless and you can barely see the light at the end of the adolescent tunnel.

What happened to your little girl? 

Hormones and puberty are just part of the puzzle.  Once you get this remaining piece of the puzzle, you will have the power and the tools to make this journey much easier on your family.

Your little girl is figuring out who she is, she's establishing her independence and is ready to fit in and thrive somewhere other than with mommy and daddy.  She's getting ready to face the world as she transitions into womanhood and you can help.....every second counts. 
           
According to Teens WebMD even if your daughter acts like she doesn't need you, she does.  Your structure, advice, & guidance play a pivotal role in her sense of well-being and resilience.  In my experience, the parents who are willing to invest time, energy, patience, love & resources into their daughters send a powerful message: "You're worth it!"

Perhaps the greatest weakness teens face at this time is a lack of self-esteem and confidence.  Obstacle number one is a huge and debilitating belief that confidence=arrogance/stuck up/cocky/full of yourself and host of other negative connotations. 

Teens will gain a tremendous advantage in their adolescent years and well into adulthood simply by improving their self esteem and confidence.  

Obstacle number two is that teens don't know how to improve their self-esteem and confidence, they may even think, 'I either have it or I don't.'  That's simply not true.  Parents can support this journey by helping their teens to understand what self esteem is, how it is related to confidence (yes they are two different things),  why is is not the same as arrogance and finally, help them to best utilize self-esteem to feel good inside as well as to fit in and feel valuable at school and at home.

Your little girl is becoming a woman, but don't be too hard on yourself for wanting your "little girl" back, you have good reason!  You see, she was a confident, upbeat little girl and somewhere around middle school it seemingly drifts away into uncertainty, doubt and poor decision making. So, I understand what you mean, you are happy to watch her grow, you just want her amazingly perfect qualities to grow with her.  I relate to you completely.....and this video does too. It will move you to tears and inspire you to take action to protect your daughters confidence. 

I am Dr. Simone Alicia, The Self Esteem Doctor" and I am happy to leave you with a note of inspiration and few resources for you and your teen daughter.

(For your Daughter) Instantly offer your daughter exclusive access to the SELFIE Self Esteem Development Workshop because her future depends on her self-esteem:  (click here -->)Self Esteem Lessons For Individual Evolution 

(For you) Visit online resources like: 

A Parents Guide to Surviving The Teen Years

Raising Confident Daughters in a Changing World

" Dare to be yourself.
Emerge...... unfold..... unveil your possibilities but be natural.
Have no pretenses and show your softer side.
Be content, but don't forget to dream... and when you do....SOAR!!!"
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Dams A., Age 18 --- Visayas, Philippines

Love, light and confidence to you,

From The Self Esteem Doctor

(Dr. Simone Alicia)

www.TheSelfEsteemDoctor.com

(For your Daughter) Instantly offer your daughter exclusive access to the SELFIE Self Esteem Development Workshop because her future depends on her self-esteem:  
Self Esteem Lessons For Individual Evolution